This may be unpopular opinion but one worth considering. We all know negative people to be the life-draining mood-quenching pests that they generally come off as. What if I told you there was another way to perceive negative people; to see negate people in a new light such that they make you feel more pleased about yourself, boost your confidence and help you improve your optimism and general mindset about life and living it? Well, there is actually more positive in negative than you may have thought and now, were gonna explore that.
First of all, let me point out that there are people who want pineapples on their pizza, Justin Bieber has haters, just not everyone freaks out about Beyonce and not everyone likes or would like you! You wanna know something that Sensitive Sam didn’t know? Living your life in mimicry of others opinions isn’t an elimination of the negatives, but is in itself a shift in balance with a negative still on either sides of the balance. Consider a lioness bringing home a baby deer as breakfast for her little ones. The meal the cubs have would result in positive reactions by the cubs towards their mom whereas the deer would have negativity and remorse towards the lioness. It’s not the lionesses’ fault that nature made her the predator- she had to do what she had to do. While the action is single, the opinions formed are as a result of where those directly and indirectly affected by your choices see your point from. Understand that you are under no obligation nor do you have the capability to change everyone else's understanding or point of view. This should help you be more confident and happy about the choices and decisions you make no matter what others think of it, so go do you! The better you learn to deal with the dynamics of negative people and their actions, the better the feeling of satisfaction, pride and happiness in yourself and your choices will be. I mean, no amount of explanations by the lioness is gonna make the deer mom start liking her, right?
Sometimes it’s difficult to get honest feedback especially from those who love us the most because they wouldn’t want to see you hurt. You also need to understand that it’s only by realizing your shortcomings, will you be able to transform your life and make something better out of it. In such situations, you’ll need the raw opinion of that person who seems to never find any positive thing with you, and consider their opinions─ the opinion of a negative person is the truth you need. The pleasant words of the “yes people” can be more dangerous than those who serve you with the cold raw truth. In view of this, what you need to do is to have an open mind about what everyone says to you whether good or bad and take all into consideration before making any moves. It’s most important to be honest with yourself too, making it easier for you to identify good from bad and also easier for you to do what is right and best for yourself. It’s simply about taking opinions into consideration and not just throwing them out the window or accepting them completely.
People just want to see you loose but when that doesn’t happen, they start acting cold and negative towards you. When you get such cold reactions, rejoice because that’s actually an affirmation for your awesomeness- they want it but can’t have it so they hate. Jealousy is the disease that makes people envious and threatened by the success of others so in trying to deal with the envy they feel, they try to make your achievements look like they are no good. Instead of beating yourself up, poor yourself a glass of wine, go to the beach, get yourself some good ass pizza and enjoy it with those who support you because guess what? You’re winning! Envy is in fact the highest form of flattery so take it for that.
Sometimes, people try too hard to hate that it becomes funny- just take a second thought and you’ll realize it. Certain things shouldn’t be taken personally because if we are honest with ourselves, we would be able to realize that the preconceived notions and assumptions people have about us are sometimes plane wrong and absurd that it even becomes funny. Instead of running in the hamster wheel with whoever is trying to spoil your mood with their negative opinions, take the opportunity to get a laugh out of the joke that it is.
Before you go screaming “screw you” to everyone on your ‘negative people’ list, know that negativity shouldn’t be something you should call for from others because you think you can deal with it, but something you should be able to stand your own against as and when they happen. Remember also to always handle negative vibes and reactions from others calmly. What are some of your ‘like a boss’ moves you use to handle negativity? Lets discuss in the comments.
At the point where it gets too much for you, you actually should cut them off. Thanks for sharing your comment @Rachel.
@Jean i really like your comment on this! There is always something new we can learn from every experience. We shouldn't be rigid with everything.
Thanks for sharing your comment @brandon!
Exactly @renata. Thanks for your nice comment!